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Who’s fault is it your child is in bottom set?

If your child is in a lower set, this story is for you.

You know your child is brighter than the set he is in, and you wonder why they are in that set. They could do better, it’s in your gut, and you are probably right.

This is a personal story about a student who was in a low-level maths set. The overall message is that being in a low level set does not determine the students potential. 


I had this student once, he was in set 8. There were 8 sets in maths in his school, so he was in the bottom of all bottom sets. Like no hope in hell of achieving anything. Like what was the point in helping this kid, he won’t even scrape a pass. 


But after a few months of 1-to-1 sessions,  I asked him, “So, how hard are you finding these algebraic fractions?” 


He said…fine, a bit hard to start but getting the hang of it now, in fact easy now.
I said, “Oh that’s great because this is the topic they are teaching in set 1, remind me why are you still in set 8?


He looked at me in shock, and then it looked like his eyes were tearing up. He could not quite believe how easy the work was in set 1! And he could not understand why he was in set 8.


For anybody that knows their maths topics, algebraic fractions are really hard for the average kid in set 1. Fractions are hard enough, to add on top of that some algebra, really throws the kids off board. 


Now I know this kid, he’s family. He’s a bit of a joker and prankster. I can understand why they chucked him  into the bottom set, he’s just a distraction. A nuisance. I don’t blame school whatsoever. 


It was too late, he was in year 11. Exams were in a few months and there’s no chance in hell of moving him up sets…what for? To distract the kids some more?


Moral of the story 1 : Whos fault is it your kids in the bottom set? The school system, the teacher, Your child or even you. Look at your child and their behaviour. How are they at home? Kids play up more at school than they do at home. So whatever naughty-ness they get up to at home, it’s ten times worse in school.

And what did you do to bring them up to scratch. Did you ring in, write letters, walk into school to complain, provide extra tuition? I remember my mother going into school to find out what books we were working from, then she bought them from the shops. 

I went from bottom set to top set in no time! My friends tell me today they can’t remember me being in the bottom set, “Raks why are you lying, you were never ever in the bottom set!” well that’s because I wasn’t there for long.


Moral of the story 2 : What do you want your child to achieve in set 1 anyway? You can do equally well in set 2, 3 or 4….probably not in set 8 though. But remember being in the bottom set does not determine a student’s potential.

There’s a reason why they get lowered, usually it’s the exam results. It’s hardly ever because a child is naughty or disruptive. But there is a limited number of seats in each class. And if two kids with the same exam result are battling for the same seat. Who do you think is going to win it?

Well the least disruptive kid of course.


Moral of the story 3 : No point in pointing the finger. Look at yourself first, look at your child and then point the finger afterwards if it makes you feel better.  At the end of the day, who loses out? Well YOU of course, more energy is lost pointing fingers. Your child has achieved subpar results and school carries on as normal, fine and dandy as usual!

Lets get out of the blaming culture and find solutions instead.

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Its in the process, math tutor online

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For years, approximately 20 years now, I kept my MSc maths certificate behind a door. Where no one could see it.

When we were renovating the house, the builders were like, “Why is this behind the door, and not over the mantlepiece?”

Also, after I graduated I did not attend the ceremony in the cathedral. Yes yes, I passed for God sake. I just didn’t go to graduation. 

I mean, wasn’t it enough that I had to sit through class for 3 years, slogging and slogging through maths sums day in day out? 

I felt the whole graduation thing was superficial and pretentious. And yes I was right. 

After 7 years, I passed the MSc my mother said, “I will never speak to you ever again if you don’t attend the ceremony.”

 I attended for my mum. 

It was probably the proudest day of her life. But it was the most FAKEST day of my life. 

Really it’s not about the cap and gown and shaking the principles hand, turn smile click, then Walking off with my certificate. 

Then what is it all about, I hear you all screaming? 

Well, isn’t it about the learning? The experience? The time spent? The friends made? The connections had? The lecturers? The laughs? The jokes? The assignments? The stress? The deadlines? The running to hand it in? The halls? The classes? 

We are deluded in this spoilt, little rich world of ours. Thinking that we will be happy after we have the big house, the car, the shoes, the bag, the latest phone, THE GRADUATION, THE CEREMONY, THE CERTIFICATE. 

Its really not about the end goal, but the process. Happiness comes IN DOING the thing and not really in GETTING THE FINAL THING. 

Ever noticed when you buy a new thing, your always on the look out for another new thing?

The novelty soon wears out after you have got it.

We have a mixture of kids on the A* program. From year 6 to 11. From bottom set to gifted and talented. What do they all have in common…

They are in the same process. Hopefully a happy process. The A* process. 

Moral of the story 1: This is a snap shot of one piece of mindset work IN OUR PROGRAM.

Moral of the story 2: It’s in the process, happiness is in the process.

Moral of the story 3: It’s still behind the door!

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